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Dear @cyclesandsex,

Any tips on helping my lowered libido? It’s a hormonal thing due to thyroid probs.




Dear #lowlibido,


Libido is a complex phenomenon - way more than the media leads us to believe. Here are a few ideas:

  1. Your brain is your most important sex organ - it’s where arousal, desire, and orgasm starts. So put sex on your brain more! Read a steamy novel, look at sexy pictures or photos, talk about sex with your friends, self-pleasure regularly, etc.

  2. Explore your body. Don’t just masturbate - pleasure map.

  3. Start before you feel ready. Many people with vulvas have “responsive desire” - aka they don’t feel turned on until after sexy things already happened. This is 100% normal! Unless it’s a hard no, say something like, “Let’s kiss and see where it takes us.” Use your own words, of course! You may find yourself getting into it as time goes on.

  4. In a relationship? No intercourse for 30 days. Commit to being intimate without sex several times a week. Think: make-out sessions, rubdowns, cuddling, long convos, & anything else that historically turns you on.


Hypothyroidism is known for lowering the sex drive as it is associated with chronically low levels of T3, the active thyroid hormone, which is needed to keep the ovaries functioning properly. Therefore, low T3 will mess with sex hormone levels. Make sure you are supporting your thyroid with nutrition and supplementation (in addition to prescribed medication when applicable).

The most important nutrients for thyroid health are Vitamin D, Magnesium, Selenium, Zinc and Iodine. Increase your intake of selenium-rich foods (think 3- brazil nuts a day), and increase magnesium, zinc and iodine-rich foods (think lots of dark leafy greens, oysters, and seaweed).

Testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone are the main drivers behind a woman's libido. So I recommend you get those hormone levels tested, to establish your baseline. 

Aphrodisiac foods are a great way to start ramping up your libido:

  • Dark chocolate contains phenylethylamine, which triggers the production of the same endorphins produced during sex. Plus it's rich in magnesium, B vitamins, and antioxidants. Magnesium is essential to the production of sex hormones.

  • Pomegranates are loaded with antioxidants that improve blood circulation, which is important for keeping those all important sex organs healthy. They also improve sex drive and mood in both women and men by significantly raising testosterone.

  • Oysters are rich in zinc, necessary for testosterone production, and they have a reputation for jumpstarting libido. They also have two rare amino acids - D-aspartic acid and N-methyl-D-aspartate - which increase sex hormone production!

Finally, if your partner wants to have sex, don't automatically say no. An immediate no to sex doesn’t give your body and mind the chance to get "in the mood". Instead, say “Ask me again in 10 minutes”, go into the bedroom, turn on your oil diffuser, take some deep breaths, and imagine how much fun it will be to have sex with your partner.


Kait Scalisi and Nicole Jardim

Kait Scalisi is a sex educator, MPH, and founder of Passion by Kait, which helps womyn find #freedominpleasure with fun + practical tips to create a sex life that's as intimate, exciting, & fulfilling as the rest of their relationship. Nicole Jardim is a women's health & functional nutrition coach, who is also known as the “The Period Girl,” for her work helping women reclaim their hormonal health.

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